NO LOVE LOST

met up with ex coleks last evening for dinner
share news and update each other
heard sad updates
sigh
why like this really......

story is true...ppl's names are changed

case 1

X and Y with 3 kids
Y is a FT housewife now looking after 3 kids....becoz X need to go overseas for studies few yrs ago...so she quitted her job and brought the whole family over...accompanied the hubby
1 yr plus later all came back, X went back to work, Y stayed home to looked after the 3 kids
Y suggested to X that they go out for meals once in awhile
X said NO. I WANT HOME COOKED FOOD
fine, Y said then maybe on weekendS then...2 days out of the week...go out to eat, at least bring the kids out
X said NO WAY. 3 MEALS A DAY MUST BE HOME COOKED FOOD!!
Y then said ok then maybe one meal during the weekend, at least
X said OK. and then added I RATHER GO SHOPPING MYSELF THAN TO BRING U AND THE KIDS, SO TROUBLESOME!!

wa kao!!
really damn HIM!!(Sorry my dear friend)
really, u know....all family, what he meant by that statement?
the kids are his lor
and he dared to say such thing
and apparently hor, he dun lift a finger to help my friend to do housework or look after the kids, the most he did was WASH THE DISHES and he dare dare told my friend tt "I DUN KNOW HOW TO LOOK AFTER THE KIDS"
WA LAN eh!! FUCK U KNOW....THE AFTER PRODUCT U DUN KNOW
what the hell is this!!
damn u!!!!
PUI
i look u no up lor.......MEN!!! simply dun get it!!!

and then, Y is a very soft hearten person...so as usual finding excuses for the hubby
sigh
pity her? i dun know...not tt she deserved it...i tell u, SHE DESERVES BETTER.......so u hor, u better wake up ur idea.....
but then again, someone highlighted as she is no longer working now, its quite a sad case, coz she is dependent on her hubby, if she is working, then maybe different story le.....
so hor, lesson to bear in mind, want to pop baby, start own family, make sure the other half is responsible enough to help out, if not, dun bother to pop baby or even start a family with this kind of ppl!!!
2nd lesson, must have own money!! so dun need to look at ppl's face colour...if not, u must control the purse string....then u can do all u want.......

and hor, i tell u lor
another thing tt made me mad......X drove MPV!!! MPV ok.....not small car but MPV.....
every day, Y got to bring the 3 kids to school ON FOOT ok......rain or shine.......the 2 elder ones can walk on their own, but the youngest one still cannot walk properly nor speak..sigh....so u can imagine...go imgaine bah....
rain or shine, 3 kids, 2 walk 1 carry, Y carried the bags....
in the evening time, on foot again and fetch children back home...wash up, feed, coach, sleep...*speechless*

mama the greatest!! this sentence not wrong leh

they used to have a maid at home
but ever since they came back from the overseas study, the hubby refused to employ one
told Y tt she can unpack the luggages and do the housework bit but bit each day
its easy for him to say lor, coz he is not the one doing.....

3 meals a day must be HOME COOKED
morning Y got to wake up to make BREAKFAST
then send the 2 kids to school
come back unpack, do housework, cook lunch, look after the youngest,
by the time she knows it, time to prepare dinner and go fetch the 2 kids from school
come back serve dinner, wash the kids, play with them, put them to bed
pack everything then go to bed
and repeat the same thing the next day!!!
my friend, is so poor thing, she no get to go out, walk walk, look see look see
in other words, she has no free time of her own, u know, as in personal time!!!!

sometimes, i really feel, maybe i am really very lucky, being happily single....
u know, u know, what i mean......
sigh

case 2
2 kids
hubby ok lah, will help out
but he will only help out when u request for his assistance
means to say, he will move a bit, if u ask him to do
sigh
no ask him, he will park himself infront of the TV with his remote control
A told B "how come the feeling is so different from pat tor time? he is so nice and good during dating time but now...sigh"
B told A "its like tt de. dating mah. got love. now married. all love gone...left with committment only"

seriously, after marriage, after honeymoon period, only left with committment?
not suppose to be like this rite?
couple must still work together to keep the fire burning, to create sparks
not like "as long as i bring back the bread, u dun care so much lah"
sad sad sad
sigh

there was this outing, A went out with hubby for his class gathering
then most of the guy friends said "hey, i have to leave to 9pm, i need to go fetch wife...or maybe "i need to leave by 9pm, i need to go home, the kids are waiting, u know..this kind of situation.
A told B sadly "when i saw this, i was so upset and also very displeased with my hubby. coz once when i told him tt i will be attending a wedding dinner, pls come at 10pm to fetch me, u know what he told me? he said i dun think i can come fetch u, coz i dun know what time the guys will end"
swee....i do understand where she is coming from
why the hubby cannot like the other guys upfront say "hey, i need to left by 930pm coz i need to fetch my wife from a wedding dinner and then rush back to see the kids before they sleep"
sigh
the friends more impt than family??
well, a then mocked her hubby "ya, i know, friends are for lifetime, wife is for few sec"
steay pom pi pi
hubby diam diam.......

coz hubby not matured enough? or hubby no sense of committment? or what?
i also dun know....

have i been living in a fairy tale land again??
sigh
i dun know, but i do know the reality is so cruel again.....

maybe at this pt of time, HE is MR RIGHT, but few yrs down the road, or even few mins later....HE becomes MR TOTALLY WRONG.......
what ironic......