SOMEWHERE OVER THE RAINBOW

dedicate this entry to u know who.........

ya, U!!

dun doubt it!!

=P

dun be upset, dun be despair, dun be depressed ok

after the stormy ride, the rainbow will be there...........

as i always said "the sun will still rise for u and me " =))

got this cheer up present for u

pass to u next time ok

cheer up my friend

=)

actually its not a bad idea to sometimes eat the humble pie......... =)

grow together with the r/s

give and take

but never be the one who always give or always take

must have a balance, if not, will be imbalance le

as one party will be tired coz both hands will be tired supporting it ( i am cross over person, so i know)

i dun really know what happened

but hor, in my humble opinion, as long as no 3rd party, not gambling, not alcoholic, not womaniser, what also can be solve de

so, hang in there

take it as test, a learning curve.......marriage is not always smooth smooth de. just like a r/s. u got to pull it thru together

dun keep thinking of the negative sides, be positive!!!

when ppl are angry, they tend to say things without gg thru the pork's brain

so it tends to be hurtful

not within our control rite??

i know i am in no position to tell u or advise anything

coz i am not better than u in anyway

but its just my humble opinion

breaks my heart to see my dear friend so heart broken.........

whatever it is dun say something which u gg to regret later ok

trust me, sure can work out de.....

its only whether both parties want to or not

let me tell a story

not sure is it applicable

but think abt it

FOOD FOR THOUGHT......

long long time ago, a poly lecturer told me this:-

BF and GF studied in Uni

BF and GF results very good de

either on par or certain subjects the BF or GF will scored better

One fine day, GF noticed tt whenever the results for subjects A , B C are released, BF very sad de

and she realised tt BF is sad becoz GF topped the subject and not him

but when BF topped certain subjects, BF will be very happy *beam beam*

so GF asked BF "what happened? why so sad?" (when GF topped the subject)

BF said "nothing." *sulk*

but GF smart lor so what did she do?........

as GF wants BF to be happy (always happy)

she derived a plan

she deliberately missed out few small points in answering her test qns and thus BF "won" her by a few marks and BF will *beam beam beam beam beam*

so GF decided tt she will do tt in future, let the BF scored better than her by few marks but yet they will still be the top students in the class.

so BF happy, GF saw also happy

end of the day, BF and GF happy happy

=))

so i asked my lecturer "but GF is better in those subjects why must lose to him? he is also better in certain subjects why he dun lose to GF?" and my lecturer replied something like :-

"dun always have to win, dun always have to be so head strong. lose out once in awhile, be the weakling let the one protect u, let him feel like he is in control. u dun lose anything but in actual fact u gained."

and my poly classmate who was with me tt time told me "actually, the smartest of all is GF lor. she has to think carefully how to not score that 1 - 2 marks so that BF can scored better than her and yet they can still be the top students."

then lecturer continued

"after graduation, BF and GF goes out to the working world. both gotten a job in the same industry. apparently GF did better than BF coz she lucky. got good boss. was given opportunities to excel in the workforce. BF slogged very hard at work. worked doubly hard and when encountered problems, will seeked GF's advised. the GF saw BF very stressed. so asked "why? what happened?" but BF said "nothing" GF can sensed tt BF is sad coz she is doing better than him. so what did she do?? she quitted her job when boss gave her the opportunity to rise. and what did she do? she applied a job in teaching. simple job, just to get by so tt BF ma chiam can be the sole breadwinner."

and i went "wa! why the GF so stupiak de. always think for the BF. and the BF hor, better treat the GF good lor."

and my lecturer laffed and said tt "the GF and BF have since married and have 2 beautiful children". and it turned out tt she was actually telling her own life story to us.........

tts why sometimes i choose to act stupiak so tt the other party can "enlighten" me and he feels good. things tt i am good at, i choose to be ignorant abt it so tt the other party can show me how to do it and feel tt he is in control. not to quarrel not becoz i am in the wrong but becoz "whats the pt?" what would i gain? what will i get? will i be happy? will i get million of dollars? or its just the pride/ego tt i cannot lose???

but when its getting out of hand, i think i will put my feet firmly on the ground and send my message thru

dun take me as a sick cat when i dun meow lor..........hehehe

>.<

duh

ok, my story ends here

how applicable to u, i am not sure

wait till both cool down then have a good talk bah

there's always a rainbow after the rain........u might even find a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, my friend