FORGIVE BUT CAN FORGET OR NOT

was reading an article from NUYOU when in starsbuck just now
what happened when men strayed? should we forgive and forget??

well, the answer is "must try to salvage first. if cannot then let it go....cannot dun try and then let it go.....afterall the r/s was built on trust and love. cannot say one time mistake and forever condemned"

but the author did mentioned
when the guy chooses to stray, there is no more love lor
so the girl hor, always the innocent party, will think all sorts of reaons, like she is the fault. she is not good enough for him. blah blah blah
the author said something tt the women should just wake up and move on
once love is gone, whatever is over le lor
dun think so much
so what if there was love once, its OVER!!!

men also loves to give excuses when things goes wrong
"i am also human. i am also lonely. i am also tempted by temptations lor. so why cannot give me a chance?"
and women, once made up their minds "u off track. so bye bye. no second thoughts abt it"
so tts why the conclusion
must try to salvage first, if all methods exhausted and still cannot solved or saved anything then let it go and move on
best for everybody..........

there was this story abt the wife took up the 1 yr assignment to go overseas
the couple very lovey dovey de
so the wife very confident tt hubby will stay faithful
then who knows, hubby and coll *ahem*
after one yr, wife came back and found out
deliebrate for sometimes
wife refused to go for the D
then she took up another yr assignment to go overseas
and then after few months decided to go ahead with the D
and the hubby cited "he is lonely. subject to temptation. he is afterall a human. why the wife like this? still said love him. but never give him a chance to save the marriage"
the wife thinks otherwise "i also alone overseas. but i did not get tempted. i am still faithful to u. i dun want to talk abt it le. i just want to get out of the marriage, afterall u r the one at fault not me"
their common friend thinks tt they should at least thrash out the issues, talk over it and tried to save the marriage

hm.......nothing much to comment
but i do agreed with the author
must try to save the marriage, exhausted all means, if really cannot work it out/ thrash is out then let it go
after all it took fate and some effort and love to make the r/s works
so must work hard to save it and salvage it. still cannot then
swee swee let it go...........
dun make the scene turn ugly lor
whats the pt rite?

i still think it boils down to the responsibilities u have towards the r/s, ur partner and urself
=))
what lonely? what human? what temptation?
all nonsense lor
before u do something, think abt how u will feel if ur partner did the same thing
can u forgive and forget and still accept
if u can, then by all means just do it
but dun regret ur actions, coz hor, ur partner might not be as "big square" like u to forgive, forget and then accept

think twice my friends.......